A day delayed because of other obligations (important steps to move my dissertation process forward!), but here we go with an important consideration: Unconditional love does not say, “I love you BUT…”
Here’s your belated but still valuable inspirational thought from Thursday…
“Forgiveness is the core ingredient
to every successful relationship.
So many people carry exceptions
to their offer of love. ‘
I love you, BUT you really hurt my feelings…’
or ‘I love you, BUT I’m too tired/busy/
to be nice to you right now.’
True love simply says, ‘I love you!’
Women seem more prone to carrying grudges
and remembering offenses for days,
and some remain bitter for years.
Jesus calls us to a higher prize
that requires us to both receive
and give forgiveness.”
–Joyce Meyer in “New Day New You”
This made me think of how Jesus offers us unconditional love – yet we so often do NOT extend that same type of love to others. Instead, as Joyce put it, we offer love with conditions or exceptions – “I love you, BUT…”
It’s human nature to focus on the negative and allow every little flaw to impede our willingness to offer forgiveness and unconditional love to our spouses, significant others, parents, kids, friends, and other loved ones – yet we deeply desire and expect to receive forgiveness and unconditional love in return!
Sure, some people may be “difficult to love” – yet God didn’t give us an “escape clause” by saying “Love others as I have loved you – EXCEPT for that guy or this woman with the ‘difficult’ personality!”
I’m thinking if we all truly followed the example Jesus provided in His selfless life, our marriages would last, our families would stay together, and our friendships would mature – all because we removed the “BUT” and simply learned to say “I love you” and mean it!
So what are YOUR thoughts?
Are you able to extend love unconditionally?
Do you have someone in your life who extends love to YOU unconditionally, or very close to that ideal?