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When Tragedy Strikes-Where Do You Turn? June 17 Inspiration


Tragedies. So many of them in my own country (USA) and around the world. It’s one thing to read about, or watch the news, regarding any of the tragic events that affect other people. It’s quite another when tragedy strikes at home.  🙁


Last night we got a call from my father-in-law; he told my husband Dave that his younger brother Doug had committed suicide. The entire family is in shock.

My brother-in-law Doug.
             My brother-in-law Doug.


Shock. Confusion. Devastation. Sorrow. Anguish. Disbelief. Denial. Anger. Despair. Guilt.


Just some of the range of emotions members of the family and friends are experiencing. Where do you turn when tragedy strikes at home?


Romans 12:15 provides an answer: “Rejoice with those who rejoice; weep with those who weep.”


Lamentations 3:22 says God’s compassion never fails.


And 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 says, “Blessed be God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble by the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.”


It seems the place to turn when tragedy strikes is to God, family, and friends. To those who truly care, who also have compassion, who comfort and not blame. We are to extend the comfort and compassion we have received to others in need of the same.


Not opinions, not judgments, not criticism, not speculation or gossip about why something happened the way it did or why someone–in a case like this–chose to end his or her life. Just compassion and kindness. A shoulder to cry on, a listening ear, a comforting embrace.



Where do YOU turn when tragedy strikes?

Do you offer comfort and compassion to others in need?



  1. tara pittman

    This is so awful, sorry to hear about your loss. I turn to God when tragedy strikes.

    18 . Jun . 2016
  2. Carol Graham

    I know it will take time to process and I pray for you during this time. So very sorry. I, too, lean on those everlasting arms.

    18 . Jun . 2016
  3. Tassie Winn

    I am so Sorry that your family had to endure this, but this is between Douglas and God only he knows his pain. I turn to God to get me through any situation. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13

    18 . Jun . 2016
  4. Nicole Escat

    Oh, this is so sad. I hope that your family will be comforted. I hate to hear about suicide stories, sorry for the lost.

    18 . Jun . 2016
  5. Elizabeth O.

    My heart goes out to you and the rest of the family. It’s definitely a tough ordeal, but with love and understanding you will all get through it. I hope your husband is doing okay. I’m sorry for your loss.

    18 . Jun . 2016
  6. Nikki Jenner

    This is so sad, I wish you all get well soon. I am sorry to hear what happened to him.

    18 . Jun . 2016
  7. Kathy Kenny Ngo

    God, family, and writing. Sometimes it really can be quite hard to accept things that are so painful.

    18 . Jun . 2016
  8. Courtney Gillard

    I wish the whole family will later moved on without having the feel of guilt. Please give my hugs to everyone.

    18 . Jun . 2016
  9. Amy Jones

    I feel a lump in my throat reading this…I lived a similar situation a few years ago, when this happens you feel every emotion you named at the same’s just too painful. I hope you and your family can overcome this difficut moment. Please be strong

    18 . Jun . 2016
  10. Angie Scheie

    I’m so sorry for your family’s loss. This month has been so terribly dark and I think everyone is feeling it. Especially you on such a personal level. I love the verses you chose and we all need to focus on that love and light!

    18 . Jun . 2016
  11. Heather

    So sorry for your loss. I really love the Toni Hammer quote!

    18 . Jun . 2016
  12. Alana

    One thing I am thankful for is that we can talk more openly about suicide than even a few years ago. When my husband’s uncle took his life, my mother in law instructed us not to send a card to her sister (who lived about 2000 miles away). It wasn’t discussed. Then, several years later, her nephew, my husband’s cousin, committed suicide. In the second case, a years long battle with bipolar disorder ended with that act. There was a lot more openness this time. People in your situation, we’ve, need to talk, and just need someone to listen and not pass judgement. It’s hard. I hope the healing process will soon begin for you and your family. My condolences.

    18 . Jun . 2016
  13. Gingermommy

    I try to reach out to people I know who have been through a hard time. Often support comes from a variety of places. A great community is important

    18 . Jun . 2016
  14. Susanna @Zealous Mom

    I am so very sorry for your loss. Suicide, especially, is so hard to understand. You are in my prayers. And I agree that Romans 12:15 is a very encouraging piece of scripture such as times as you are facing.

    18 . Jun . 2016
  15. Stacia

    It’s absolutely heartbreaking to lose such a beautiful person ,he will be missed so dearly and I hope that he is at peace with himself.we will never know the pain a person endure to take that step but we can only hope that we all can heal from this and that he is in peace.

    18 . Jun . 2016
  16. Tara

    I agree with you completely. In fact, I have a similar post going up next week on my blog. I’m very sorry for your loss.

    18 . Jun . 2016
  17. Leigh Anne Borders

    When tragedy strikes, I always turn to God. My family is also an important support system too.

    18 . Jun . 2016
  18. OurFamilyWorld

    I always turn to God whenever tragedy strikes. I am sorry to hear about what happened to your brother in law. I am praying for your whole family.

    19 . Jun . 2016
  19. Kathy

    I’m so sorry about your loss. We have had many suicides in our town over the years and it never gets easier. It’s such a tragedy. You’re all in my thoughts!

    19 . Jun . 2016
  20. Kusum

    So sorry to hear about your loss. It really bothers and disturbs me a lot when I hear such stories and struggle to take my mind of such tragedies.
    xx, Kusum |

    19 . Jun . 2016
  21. Eileen Mendoza Loya

    My deepest condolences on your loss. I always turn to God first. I wait and listen for his response or at least feel a little comfort. After I have opened up my heart to God, there is an overwhelming sense of peace inside of me. Hard to explain, but it just feels like I’ve been touched by God’s comforting hands.

    19 . Jun . 2016
  22. Shannon Peterson

    What a very difficult time for your family! My prayers are with you all!

    20 . Jun . 2016
  23. She Joh

    I’m so sorry for your families loss. It’s sad when you unexpectedly lose a family member. I hope your family is able to find closure somehow during the upcoming days, weeks, and months. My thoughts are with you.

    20 . Jun . 2016
  24. Tiffany VanSickle

    I am so sorry for what your family is going through. The Bible is the first place that came to mind! And family and friends. I will be praying for your family.

    20 . Jun . 2016
  25. KatyRose

    So sorry for your loss. It it so hard to know where to turn and how to cope, especially when it is a sudden tragic event. Prayers for you and your family during this difficult time. – Katy

    20 . Jun . 2016
  26. Jay Simms

    This is so very sad. I am sending prayers your way.

    20 . Jun . 2016
  27. shelley zurek

    I am so sorry for your loss. How horrible for you whole family. When tragedy strikes I try to turn my eyes to heaven (from whence comes my strength). Sometimes in my sorrow or anger I forget though.

    20 . Jun . 2016
  28. Christina Aliperti

    This is so sad. I usually turn to God and pray more during tragedy. It’s hard sometimes when you feel you have no one to turn to.

    20 . Jun . 2016
  29. Enricoh Alfonzo

    My deepest condolences. Mad respect for sharing this and raising awareness

    21 . Jun . 2016
  30. Colette S

    It is hard to try to understand these awful things.
    My condolences to your family about your loss.

    Indeed, it’s best to seek the peace of God for our hearts.

    21 . Jun . 2016
  31. ana fernandez

    So sorry about this! My prayers will be with your family!

    22 . Jun . 2016

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