Unforgiveness vs. Forgiveness – October 21 Devotions

The other day, we looked at a devotional about taking that step of faith–stepping out and finding out–and sometimes stepping forward means stepping outside of our comfort zones. I think one of the biggest “uncomfortable zones” is dealing with people who have hurt us, and deciding whether or not to let go of the hurt, and the grudges, and forgive those people–even if our feelings don’t exactly coincide with the decision to forgive.

 

 

Here’s today’s devotional thought…

 

“Unforgiveness will ruin your day.

If someone hurts you, pray quickly,

‘God, I forgive him/her in Jesus’ Name.’

If your emotions feel strained when you see that person,

stand firm in your decision to forgive him/her.

Pray for the person,

asking God to show you how to bless him/her.

Do whatever  God leads you to do for the person,

and let God’s love work through you

to heal the rift between you.

If you do your part, God will bring your feelings

in line with your decision,

and you will enjoy your day and your life.”

–Joyce Meyer in “Starting Your Day Right”

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Here’s another related quote:

“Forgiveness is freeing up and putting to better use

the energy once consumed by holding grudges,

harboring resentments, and nursing unhealed wounds.

It is rediscovering the strengths we always had

and relocating our limitless capacity

to understand and accept other people and ourselves.”

–Sidney and Suzanne Simon

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My reflections:

I think forgiveness is one of the most difficult interactions between human beings. But I’ve also experienced the effects of “holding grudges, harboring resentments, and nursing unhealed wounds” as the second quote says, and it’s not a nice place to be. On  the other side, forgiving someone brings a lot of peace and freedom.

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So what are YOUR thoughts?

How do you feel about forgiveness? Do you easily forgive others or do you struggle with “holding grudges, harboring resentments, and nursing unhealed wounds” as the second quote says?

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  1. I don’t follow devotionals but I do think about forgiveness. Seems to be a popular topic recently. Forgiveness is very personal and may require a lot of introspection. So often what stands in the way is holding onto the meaning you gave the hurt or proving you are justified. It takes too much energy to hold onto it, so I just let it go.

  2. I completely agree with this post! Forgiveness is NOT easy, but it’s worth it! Knowing the person has the potential to hurt you again (and they probably will) is scary, but it’s so damaging to your health to hold onto unforgiveness!

  3. This is all so true. I love the quote “Forgiveness if not something we do for other people. We do it for ourselves to get well and move on”. Once you realize this it is so much easier to let go of the hurt and anger.
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  4. Forgiveness is often so hard to give, especially to ourselves. We often blame ourselves for something that is not ours. Forgiving someone who has caused us pain, is very important for us to move past the pain, leave it in the past and to feel we can freely move forward. Although I don’t follow devotionals, I know the topic of forgiveness is an important if we want to truly be unburdened and unhampered. Forgiveness is for us, I agree.
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  5. I’ve had to forgive some people in the past because they broke the code of friendship and trust and it came easily because I still cared about them. The one area where it took a lot of time to forgive in the truest sense of the word was the nasty corporate politics played by a former boss who wanted his own protege and almost ruined my career in the process. By God’s Grace there were others who realized what was happening and stepped in to intervene but it did take me time to forgive this person, especially when he had the gall to tell me on my face that this was ‘corporate life’.
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  6. Forgiveness is something we cannot easily give to people especially if that person doesn’t deserve it. Although, it’s an important part of moving on as well. I believe in the power of forgiveness.

  7. Forgiveness is hard. I really struggle with it sometimes.

  8. I struggle. And I know holding grudges gives that person total power over your life. I also know, intellectually, that forgiveness is a process to let go of your pain and end the power that person has over you. So, I must decide, has that pain become so much of a part of me that I can not let it go?
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  9. I forgive easily, knowing that something has caused the person to behave the way they do. Sometimes, I’m glad I don’t share their experiences.
    Forgiveness is good for us. But that doesn’t mean we have to be good friends with the person who is causing the harm. Just move on.

  10. I have a hard time forgiving. Trying to work on it.

  11. I’m all about forgiveness! Even if you remember whatever it is that happened… Forgiving and moving on is better for you in the long run!

  12. I do forgive. Sometimes it is hard, but i do.

  13. Forgiveness can be very hard to give at times. I find that when I do forgive someone, it helps me feel a lot better. I think just because you forgive someone doesn’t mean you have to forget or to be best buddies with the person again.

  14. I always give them a second chance even when they have done something wrong but once they have lost their chance I will not be friends with them anymore. In the past I let people treat me like dirt and gave them too many chances. I agree in forgiveness because I can understand why people do the things they do but some things are too hurtful to forgive.
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  15. You’re right, forgiveness is not easy. Although I see my self as a forgiving person, I often find that some people take it as a weakness to hurt you again. So what ends up happening is instead of trying to rebuild the relationship with them, I stay away of fear they will repeat.
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