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Spend Time with Loved Ones Before It’s Too Late – June 18 Inspiration


It’s so important to spend time with loved ones while you can, before it’s too late. Getting over petty disagreements, appreciating one another, loving and caring about one another…as the song  goes, telling each other how we feel “in the living years” rather than dealing with guilt after the fact because we failed to take that time while we had it.



My darling hubby Dave, in these early stages of grief over losing his younger brother, Doug, posted this today on his Facebook timeline:

“Another morning, another fleeting moment wishing I was waking from a terrible dream.

Thanks again to everyone for all your much needed support.

I urge everyone with a sibling to make an effort to spend some time together, like you did when you were young – what you do probably won’t matter as much as the time spent.

Don’t realize that you’ve drifted too far apart after it’s too late to do anything about it.”




In conjunction with what Dave wrote this morning with the admonishment “to make an effort to spend some time together,” I thought I’d also share a poem I wrote in Sept. 2011. While it’s about my parents, you could take the thoughts and apply them to any loved one you have in your life…before it’s too late!

Tribute to My Parents:

Who Needs to Hear “I love you” Today?

Nine years ago today, I lost my Dad,

the first most beloved man in my life.

Two months ago, in July, I lost my Mom –

now they’re reunited, loving husband and wife.


Last month, in August, I sat by their graves,

visiting their earthly resting place.

I know their spirits don’t reside there –

instead, they see each other and their Lord, face to face.


I can’t believe they’re both gone –

my siblings and I, emotional orphans –

but our parents are no longer in pain.

Cancer ravaged their bodies and took them,

God welcomed them home –

and some day, we will see them again.


Sometimes we grow complacent,

hold grudges, or worse,

And neglect to tell loved ones how much we care…

We should take time to make amends,

say “I love you” while we can,

before our loved ones are no longer there.


Thank God for His mercy and grace –

He granted time with both parents

Before they went peacefully on their way…

I would encourage you to ponder these words

and ask yourself,

who needs to hear “I’m sorry” and “I love you” today?



So what are YOUR thoughts?

Is there someone in your life you need to make amends with today?

Have you recently lost someone? (If so, my condolences!)


Thanks to all who have expressed sympathy, thoughts, and prayers… we appreciate them!




  1. Meredith

    Great article, perfect in time for Father’s Day!

    19 . Jun . 2016
  2. verushka

    Sorry for your loss.Sending you love and light.I too after my Dad passed on learnt to live in the now ,male lots of memories and take lots of pictures.

    19 . Jun . 2016
  3. Kathy Kenny Ngo

    We need to make time for the people who matter to us. This is something that I have learned early on and something that I try to do all the time.

    19 . Jun . 2016
  4. Debra C.

    Your words are beautiful expressed in your lovely poem. I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for the reminder to stop and appreciate those we love.

    19 . Jun . 2016
  5. Rachel Mouton

    Losing a sibling must be so tough 🙁 I cannot imagine losing my brother. You are so right about healing and getting past petty disagreements!

    19 . Jun . 2016
  6. JaQuette

    I enjoyed your post and it made me think of people in my family I haven’t connected with in quite some time. How would you approach connecting with someone who constantly blames you for the strain in your relationship with them? You’ve tried to get to the bottom of things and it just doesn’t work out because after they apologize, they blame you for all the problems.

    19 . Jun . 2016
    • Paula

      Sometimes apologizing, even when your not guilty disarms the chronic complainer.

      22 . Jun . 2016
  7. Sarah Bailey

    This is such an amazing post – your words are so touching. I completely agree as well – I wish I had spent more time with those who have passed. x

    19 . Jun . 2016
  8. Alana

    Beautiful post. Two lost ones are in my thoughts today. And, my mother inl law’s health, I fear, is deteriorating. You are so right about what you say.

    19 . Jun . 2016
  9. peppylady (Dora)

    Most of us I have something in our past. We would like to do different.
    Coffee is on

    19 . Jun . 2016
  10. Salma

    I am sorry for your family’s loss. I do agree that we have to make the most of our time with the people we care about.

    20 . Jun . 2016
  11. Elizabeth O.

    I couldn’t have said it better. That’s a very heartfelt message your husband wrote and that’s also a very touching poem from you. These are the time we realize that there are people in our lives that are far too important than work or money or anything else. Life is short and time spent with them is essential.

    20 . Jun . 2016
  12. Elizabeth Gilbert

    Yes, I’ve lost my Mother when I was 9, my brother at the same age, my father was unknown, and slowly my family has passed on. You never know how much you truly needed them until they are no longer there and then you ache just to hear their voice again. Always say “I love you” when you are hanging up the phone…trust me.

    20 . Jun . 2016
  13. Rosey

    A mother’s worst nightmare. I pray all of the time that all of my children outlive me.

    20 . Jun . 2016
  14. Nicole Escat

    This is so true. My aunt died two years ago and still, we missed her. She’s been the nicest member of our family.

    21 . Jun . 2016
  15. Dina Demarest

    This is such a beautiful post! Everyone can use this in their lives and make sure they tell their loves ones how they feel.

    21 . Jun . 2016
  16. Dina Demarest

    I’ve lost my dad, best friend and brother. You never know what you’ve got until it’s gone. then you miss it like crazy.

    21 . Jun . 2016
  17. Paula

    Love this, bittersweet. But much more sweeter. I was able to reconnect with my blood dad as I was adopted as a child. It was awesome and he died shortly after we reconnected, sadly. But the day before he died (he sang, danced and played instruments) I was attending a mass for the Jubilee of Mercy. A sweet little man with brilliant blue eyes, joyfully comes from nowhere and points to a bird in a tree. He tells us,the bird sings beautifully and asked if we heard him. He tells us they call the bird St. Michael. Now I am looking for the bird and once I see him, he flies away and the little man scurried away too. I kinda felt the little singing bird who flew away and who I never heard sing was a symbol of my dad. As he flew away the next day. My girlfriend is so funny, she thought the little man with the blue eyes was an angel. Never know, do we?

    22 . Jun . 2016
  18. Kiana Abram

    Thank you for sharing this poem. I love the message behind it and I agree that it is very important to show the ones you love that you value them whenever you have the opportunity to do so.

    22 . Jun . 2016
  19. Bismah

    This was so beautifully written! Sometimes people get caught up in the materials of the world and forget about what is really important. It really shouldn’t take much or cost anything to make others close to you feel good.

    22 . Jun . 2016
  20. Dawn gibson-thigpen

    i love this post. i totally agree it is so important. i remember when i was growing up spending time with family wasnt that important. but the older i get the more i get it.

    23 . Jun . 2016
  21. Marielle Altenor

    Tomorrow is not promised to any of us. Which is why I try my best to always tell my loved ones just how much they mean to me.

    23 . Jun . 2016

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