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Rules of Happiness #15 – Accept What Is – January 20 Devotions

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Whatever will be, will be. I guess a close saying to that one is, accept what is. That, and the “serenity prayer,” about having the serenity to accept the things we cannot change; courage to change the things we can; and wisdom to know the difference.  I’d say we need all of these things (serenity, courage, and wisdom) working together in most areas of life. And sometimes, a good dose of patience and even humor, depending on the situation. Continuing to worry and be anxious about things we can’t control really does us no good, and can even be harmful to our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health.

 

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We are drawing to a close on Karl Moore’s Rules of Happiness; only three remaining. Here are rules #1 to #14, for those who haven’t read them all or for anyone who wants to refer back to them:

Rule #1: Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself

Rule #2: Be Grateful

Rule #3: Say Yes More

Rule # 4: Follow Your Bliss

Rule #5: Learn to Let Go

Rule #6: Do Random Acts of Kindness

Rule #7: Happiness is Only Ever Now

Rule #8: Experience, Don’t Hoard!

Rule #9: Experience Both Sides of the Coin

Rule #10: Be More Social

Rule #11: Love More

Rule #12: Have a Dream 

Rule #13: Set Direction with Intention

Rule #14: Enjoy Simple Pleasures

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Today, here is rule #15.

Rule #15 – Accept What Is

“By accepting, welcoming, embracing what is, you clear all of your emotions.

Your thoughts gain more clarity.

You become happier.

You experience more freedom.

If you can change things, after accepting them,

you’ll have a sharper mind and more energy to do so.

Pointless worrying – there’s nothing you can do about it.

Shrug and smile about it, that’s life.” –Karl Moore

Happiness is a function of accepting what is.”

– Werner Erhard

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My reflections:

This is a tough one. It’s really difficult sometimes to exercise patience, faith, and simply NOT worry! I’m in a situation right now that is very relevant, waiting to hear about the outcome of today’s interview for an amazing job opportunity. On the one hand, I’m hopeful; on the other, I don’t want to get my hopes up. Yet, I want to trust God for His direction and divine favor, and “accept what is” either way!

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So what are YOUR thoughts?

Do you find this rule of “accepting what is” an easy or difficult task? Have you ever successfully “accepted what is” even if the outcome wasn’t what you had hoped?

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One of my favorite log cabin designs; originally made for my oldest daughter, but she lost it in a fire.

32 Comments

  1. Jennifer Rollins

    I find it rather hard to “accept what is”. I tend to stress about a lot. I really need to work on this. I am loving these types of posts by the way! Thanks.
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    20 . Jan . 2016
  2. Tina

    These are 15 wonderful rules of happiness. Number 15 can be a doosey. It means we have to accept ourselves for who we are. This is not as easy as it seems. I’m working on it (diligently) and every day is a work in progress.
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    20 . Jan . 2016
  3. Emily Stoik

    This was a great post! An interesting quote I heard about worry one time is that Worrying is like praying for what you don’t want! 😉 Focusing on what we don’t want to happen can often have the opposite effect that we want because we tend to steer towards what we are focusing on.

    20 . Jan . 2016
    • Kebba Buckley Button

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      Worrying is like praying for what you don’t want! 😉 Focusing on what we don’t want to happen can often have the opposite effect that we want because we tend to steer towards what we are focusing on.

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  4. Linda Hampton

    Sometimes the hardest thing is to accept what is. The only way I can do that is to hand it over to God. Know a higher power is in control
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    20 . Jan . 2016
  5. Jennifer Dawn

    This is a tough one, but yes…there have been many times in my life where I’ve had to do this. I love rules 6 and 11.

    20 . Jan . 2016
  6. Andrea

    I appreciate these rules. They came at a time when I needed to reflect on my happiness. I am familiar with the serenity prayer and constantly pursue self improvement. Thanks

    20 . Jan . 2016
  7. Kebba Buckley Button

    K-Lee, you’re on one of my favorite subjects. It’s very hard for my human self not to switch into DOING, to solve whatever, and to WORRRY about outcomes. Then, as a person of faith, I remember that “God has this!”, “God is in control”, and “God is still in the mountain moving business.” Not that we have no choices. But one of them can be to let go of what we can’t control, b/c God can. And I have found that God is always at work in the background, whatever appears to be going on. God bless you!
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    20 . Jan . 2016
  8. Elizabeth O.

    You’re right, it’s simply not easy to stop yourself from worrying. But if you top for a second to think and you realize that all you need is a little faith, it will definitely turn things around for you.

    20 . Jan . 2016
  9. Delia Rusu

    I must say that I do a pretty good job to not worry so much. Yes, it can’t be helped most of the time, but then I stop and reflect as to why I worry if I do and ask questions like: so what if? and so what if? until I end up understanding there’s nothing really scary happening.

    Most of the worries (not all, of course) are really nothing to worry about.
    Thanks for this inspirational post, Karen.
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    20 . Jan . 2016
  10. Lisa

    Worry…that can be a hard one, but really we are not in control and when we realize that it makes it easier to accept. My dad always taught me that things work out how they are supposed to…
    I try my hardest to remember this during stressful times. Great post, love the list!
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    21 . Jan . 2016
  11. Ana De- Jesus

    I find it difficult to accept things sometimes but I know I must!
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    21 . Jan . 2016
  12. Vatsala Shukla

    The Serenity Prayer is a major tool in my efforts to combat Mercury Retrogrades and technical issues which are mostly outside of my control.

    When this happens, Karen, I pray and then move away to do other tasks until such time as there is a window for me to work on things within my control and let go of what I cannot do.

    Acceptance is a gift only we can give ourselves.
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    21 . Jan . 2016
  13. Robin Rue (@massholemommy)

    I definitely believe that everything happens for a reason. Whatever the reason is.

    21 . Jan . 2016
  14. Mardene Carr

    There is nothing more frustrating than fretting over something that you cannot change. Accept, reflect and come begin again
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    21 . Jan . 2016
  15. Peter Reginald

    Thanks for sharing this. It’s true, reminds me of the saying, don’t cry over spilt milk. This mindset is something I’ve been working on for the past couple of years. There is a real sense of peace in my life now. Less stress. More clarity.

    21 . Jan . 2016
  16. Roslyn Tanner Evans

    I learned many years ago to accept what is so, especially if out of my control. Learning to be with a situation gives much freedom.

    21 . Jan . 2016
  17. Lexie Lane

    I always believe that everything happens for a reason. Thanks for this post.
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    21 . Jan . 2016
  18. Maddie

    I love these rules. I find it difficult to accept what is.

    21 . Jan . 2016
  19. top5life

    Accepting as it is is really an important tip to be happy. Loved it the way it is expressed.

    21 . Jan . 2016
  20. Amber

    I have a hard time with worry. I tend to worth a lot and I can see how it affects how happy I can be. I love these words of encouragement though. It is definitely something to work on.

    21 . Jan . 2016
  21. Claudette

    I needed to read this today so thank you so much! 🙂
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    21 . Jan . 2016
  22. michelle

    i think accepting what is can be very important but it can also be difficult to wait for answer. i try to practice patient and am learning to be at peace with things
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    21 . Jan . 2016
  23. Susan Marot

    It is hard not to worry, but when I do I try to stay focused on doing a task I love. Good luck with the job Karen!
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    21 . Jan . 2016
  24. Angelica

    Yes, the serenity prayer is my go -to when I feel like smething is out of my hands. Always trust in God!

    21 . Jan . 2016
  25. Beverley Golden

    As a Landmark person, this idea of Werner Erhard’s is quite familiar to me. Chose what is there in front of you. Love what is so. It is also okay to be “unhappy” and to see what that brings. Erhard doesn’t say that only “good” things bring happiness, but accepting what is, is what brings happiness. The part of me that always seeks more and bigger, has my own challenges with this and yet I understand (intellectually) that accepting what is so, leads to a happier life. Thanks for sharing this Karen!
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    21 . Jan . 2016
  26. Patty

    The older I get the easier it is to just go with the flow. You cannot change a lot of things so it’s just so much less stressful to accept that and make the best of it
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  27. MyTeenGuide

    What a great read. I have learned that it’s easier to accept things and deal with it rather than struggle in fighting against it.
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    22 . Jan . 2016
  28. Liz Mays

    Acceptance doesn’t always come immediately, but it does bring a lot more peace when you reach it.
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    22 . Jan . 2016
  29. Life as a Convert

    There is one that I like a lot that says “Come what may and love it” … I always tell my kids we don’t have to agree with what happens, but we have to accept it.
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    22 . Jan . 2016
  30. Shannon Peterson

    I struggle with this DAILY, so this is a great reminder!
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    25 . Jan . 2016
  31. Tamuria

    I’m constantly telling myself if I can’t physically do anything to change something I’m not happy about, then worrying about it isn’t going to change things either. It’s a work in progress but I’m getting better at accepting what is.

    25 . Jan . 2016

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