Rule of Happiness #9 – Appreciate BOTH Sides of the Coin – July 21 Inspiration

I’ve often heard adages such as  balance is the key to life and moderation in everything. These seem to suggest that too little or too much of anything is off balance and could have less than ideal effects. As a case in point, before a recent huge jackpot drawing, this time for nearly $1.6 BILLION–my hubby found an article about eight previous winners of multi-million dollar jackpots who spent or lost it all, in one way or another.

It’s hard to imagine how that could happen, but it seems to suggest such instant wealth is often too much for some people to handle. On the other hand, some winners have successfully gone from “rags to riches,” and after living a very frugal lifestyle, have used their newfound wealth to pay off debts (their own and others’ debts), and to donate to or establish charitable foundations. It would seem THOSE people understand what it’s like to live on “both sides of the track” and they literally appreciate “both sides of the coin.”

rules-happiness

So far we have covered eight of Karl Moore’s Rules of Happiness:

In case you have missed any, here they are:

Rule #1: Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself

Rule #2: Be Grateful

Rule #3: Say Yes More

Rule # 4: Follow Your Bliss

Rule #5: Learn to Let Go

Rule #6: Do Random Acts of Kindness

Rule #7: Enjoy Happiness NOW

Rule #8: Invest in Experiences NOT Hoarding Possessions

 

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Now here’s today’s rule of happiness

Rule #9 – Appreciate Both Sides of the Coin

 

“The truth is that in order for you to experience true happiness in your life, you must experience sadness.

Without sadness, we really can’t even understand what happiness is. Just enjoy and embrace all your life adventures.

And when seemingly negative things happen, remember that it’s just the duality of life.

It’s just the other side of the coin. It’s required. It’s part of the equation.” –Karl Moore

“You don’t know when you’ve hit a peak

until you’re coming down.

And you don’t know when you’ve hit a trough

until you’re climbing out.

It’s all good.”

– David Brent

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My reflections:

This rule of happiness made me do a lot of thinking, because I wasn’t sure if I agreed with it, at first. But the more I pondered it, I recalled examples demonstrating the rule in my own life. For instance, I thought about my previous difficult marriage compared to my current pleasant one (celebrated our 10th anniversary this year!), as well as the pain in my thumb prior to surgery last year compared to lack of pain and greater mobility now. These ranges from sadness and pain, to happiness and no pain helped me comprehend the foundation of this rule of happiness.

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So what are YOUR thoughts?

Do you agree with this rule of happiness?

Have you experienced “both sides of the coin” and if so, has it made you appreciate the positive side even more?

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My “bliss” or “therapy” – making quilts and other items!

Log Cabin Quilt and "Jelly Roll" Bag.
       Log Cabin Quilt and “Jelly Roll” Bag

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  1. I feel as if the key is to acknowledge whatever emotion/feeling you are having. Not doing so only has us hold onto it and trap it within. I have also learned that these feelings/emotions are only positive or negative based on my own classifications.To explain: when I was 28 I was in the most excruciating back pain. I had a herniated disc and I could not walk because I had lost feeling in my leg. I had to have surgery. I was in that space for about a month before the surgery, and it all felt pretty darn bad. But after the surgery I got healthy. I began to exercise and treat my body with more respect. So that experience I had deemed ‘negative’ turned out to be a positive one. I think part of the key to happiness is to find the lesson of the experience. And to find the Joy, because in all things there is joy if you look closely enough. 🙂

  2. I’ve been to both sides of the coin, I think what matters is to learn as much as you can from either the good and the bad experiences, they are the ones that forge you into the person you are today

  3. What helps me is to learn, focus on the important, and not take myself too seriously. After all, the scale is out of balance most of the time, and passes through the balance point periodically.

  4. I don’t think many of us think about this often but this is so right on. I need to pin these rules above my bed or above my computer so I can reflect and work on thinking differently daily. The good with the bad. The happy and sad. Yes!

  5. I do agree, at least as long as we are on this earth, and not completed and perfect in heaven, we do often need to at least see the darkness “over there” to appreciate the light.

    A favorite song of mine by the band Switchfoot says, “The shadow proves the sunshine”.

  6. That reflection is so good. We have to know both side of the coin.

  7. I have experienced both sides of the coin. It depends on the situation.

  8. I think it helps, to give you that comparison, but I must confess I’d still rather have the scale tipped in my favour without the dips! 🙂

  9. I just love your perspective on life. I am usually one who can see both sides of the coin. This can be both a blessing and a curse LOL

  10. That’s very well said. You haven’t truly lived until you’ve experienced both. It will not always be great, and you must brace yourself for the challenges that will come your way. In the end, everything you’ve been through will teach you how to be happy.

  11. I think the rule of happiness is as simple as the adage in Pirke Avot (the Ethics of our Fathers), a tractate in the talmud.
    Who is rich? The one satisfied with his lot in life.

  12. i guess this is good, it teach us the way of life and appreciate things both ups and down and so to appreciate the life of other people and not just ourselves

  13. I will never understand why lottery winners in the states are obligated to tell everyone who they are. In the other side of the world, it’s optional. If I won the lottery, I would tell no one… people get very annoyed when you don’t fork it out and as soon as they know, the hands do come out. I wouldn’t begrudge helping anyone, but I despise it when they think they’re entitled to it.

  14. Such a worth reading. Thank you for making me inspired.

  15. There are many lessons in life that we can learn or have learned and this lesson in particular should never be missed. People who have gone through a tougher time knows how to take advantage of a much better situation than what they’ve gone through. These are the people who knows how to be content and happy.

  16. Excellent post. I agree. God made us to feel the whole range of emotions. Yes to know happiness, we must also deal with sadness. It’s life on earth. The only place where all emotions are positive, joyous and happy are reserved in heaven!

  17. Very inspiring blog. Thank you for making me fell better today.

  18. I totally agree! We should learn how to appreciate everything that life has offered us. All these things have purposes.

  19. It is very important to enjoy each day of your life. No matter what happened- good or bad, everything has a reason.

  20. Moving forward gets overwhelming sometimes. But we have to do it and we have to enjoy right now.

  21. Congratulations on celebrating your 10-year anniversary – what a sweet milestone! I have experienced two sides of the coin. I think that if you don’t know what it feels like to experience the downs in life, you can’t truly appreciate the high points either (or feel empathy for others).

  22. Yes I do believe in the rule of happiness. In order to feel and appreciate happiness you have to experience some sadness in your life. 🙂

  23. I think this is so true about experiencing sadness to have happiness. Everyone needs to experience some sadness. We all have to experience certain things to be happy.

  24. I agree, we have to learn to appreciate the side to know what it feels like to be happy. Not saying to dwell on the sad part.

  25. Balance is really the key to living. We have to learn to appreciate both sides of the coin or we will be men and women most miserable

  26. That’s true, at times you need to experience both sides in order to fully grasp the meaning of what’s happening n your life at the moment. Everyone has already hit the jackpot of being alive.

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