Rule of Happiness #10 – Be More Social – July 22 Inspiration

I used to be very social “out there” in the real world, when I had jobs outside the home. Since I came home to work in February 2008, I became more of a “hermit” and only work by telecommuting/virtual arrangements. Promoting my freelance business and my custom quilt business depends on social networking, and social networking also helps in the field of education, as I’m working toward earning my doctoral degree. So I definitely agree with today’s rule of happiness to be more social!

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On Fridays this month, I’m participating in the  Facebook blogging challenge with the Power Affiliate Club (PAC) Blogging Carnival. The topic this Friday addresses these ideas: “Innovation and taking the road less traveled. Did you discover a new direction at any point, how did you expand your pathway to include these new discoveries or did you take a different direction.”

Today’s Rule of Happiness fits right in with that topic! As I mentioned in my opening paragraph, I left the “workaday” world, came home to work, discovered the variety of freelance jobs available, and then expanded on my opportunities by continuing into graduate education and joining relevant social networks.

I can relate to what my fellow PAC blogger Alicia said: “How often have you thought to yourself, ‘I need a change.  I need to reinvent myself, take a new direction’? At the age of fifty I knew that something needed to change and change now.”  I was at the same age back in 2008, when I earned my M.Ed. degree in instructional technology, and then entered the field of instructional design and curriculum development. I then continued to expand my pathway by pursuing my Ed.D. degree in Educational Technology and E-Learning. Within the next two to three months, I will officially become Dr. Banks! 🙂

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So now we are up to #10 of Karl Moore’s Rules of Happiness.

Here are #1 – #9 in case you have missed any:

Rule #1: Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself

Rule #2: Be Grateful

Rule #3: Say Yes More

Rule # 4: Follow Your Bliss

Rule #5: Learn to Let Go

Rule #6: Do Random Acts of Kindness

Rule #7: Enjoy Happiness NOW

Rule #8: Invest in Experiences NOT Hoarding Possessions

Rule #9: Appreciate BOTH Sides of the Coin

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Now here’s today’s rule…

Rule #10 – Be More Social

 

Countless studies on the science of happiness have turned up one single characteristic of the happiest and most successful people in society. They have a large social network!

 

Don’t just wait for interesting people to stumble into your life. Keep going and going. Expand your social circle as far as you can.

 

Be the person that walks through town and bumps into a dozen friends.” –Karl Moore

Let us be grateful to people

who make us happy;

they are the charming gardeners

who make our souls blossom.”

– Marcel Proust

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My reflections:

I have discovered over the past few years just how much fun it is to have a large social network. As a freelancer who works from a home office, I especially enjoy and appreciate being able to socialize online.

My favorite social network is Facebook, because I can more easily keep in touch with family and friends, as well as participate in groups with people who have mutual interests (like education, blogging, and sewing!)

I think the qualifier of having a large social network is to ensure the people in it are those who support and encourage you, and who enrich your life in some way, not a huge number of random people just for the sake of saying you have “x” number of “followers.”

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So what are YOUR thoughts?

You’re online, so what do you think of online social networks?

Do you have a large social network offline as well, or are you more of a “home body” like I am?

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My bliss and favorite “free” time activity – sewing! 🙂

 

One of my favorite bags I’ve made in this quilt block design.

This Post Has 29 Comments

  1. I can relate – from a busy, stressful corporate environment, I now have a home-based office. Socialising takes active effort now – I appreciate it so much more!

  2. It truly can be a little hard to make friends or be more social for people who are super shy and coy. I used to be like that too and although I still am a little, getting to meet new people is amazing!

  3. This rule is a little hard sometimes. But we have to try everyday to meet new people and be nice with them.

  4. I have fallen into the “people suck, why bother” mentality. Really need to think more positive.

  5. It’s nice to meet new people and to get to know them as well. It brings this feeling of joy when you connect with new people, doesn’t it? This is such a nice rule and it’s definitely a great way to bring people closer together, especially during times like these.

  6. Wow, you are busy and congrats Doc. How awesome!
    I am a home body. I love vacations and seeing people, but I love my home…just like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz said, “there is no place like home.” So much truth to this simple realization on Dorthies part. At least for me.

  7. That has been a real challenge for me, because I suffer from intense social anxiety. Fortunately for me though, through my art, I have met a whole community of people that I feel comfortable around most of the time.

  8. Oh, this is a nice post. It is not easy to be social especially if you are not comfortable talking to the people around.

  9. I must say that it took me a while to get “into” social media. I am a social being at heart, but prefer the face to face interaction. With the introduction of audio and video messaging this is much more possible and opens up the world to anyone anywhere.
    Being social is just the start, but without it and the social networks it’s increasingly difficult to move forward online especially.

  10. Socializing in person is much needed and in these times of the internet and virtual society, this assumes more importance as otherwise we may end up losing the personal touch altogether.

  11. I work from home in the blogger world and as anyone knows, most things are done alone, except that social engagement online. Wherever I get a chance, I’ll always go out with friends or see family. Whether it’s a movie or dinner engagement, it’s important to have those social interactions outside of work and offline because things can get lonely otherwise.

  12. You simply cannot be happy without other people, it’s just part of life. These people teach us lessons in life and we also gain experience through them. They definitely help in bringing happiness to our lives.

  13. Socializing is important but we also have to be careful to whom we are going to socialized. I am so cautious when it comes to socialization.

  14. I used to be more social, in real life, but then I found the people that make me happy. A lot of my friends do live online and I am ok with that.

  15. Hi Karen,
    You certainly are busy at home. Love your quilt business, I have a friend who creates quilts but she does it with a large group of ladies, getting her to be more social.
    All kinds of ways of being more social these days. Online joining groups such as PAC is a wonderful way to meet other people interested in similar pursuits.
    Nice article for the Carnival with PAC.

  16. i definitely have been a bit of a hermit lately and your right when you’re out and about and interacting you do feel happier.

    I enjoy the alone time especially as I work to be completely working from home like you but, I do need to take a step back and realize that outside interaction is part of the balance of life. Thanks for the reminder. 😀

  17. Since I am a blogger, social media is a huge factor to me. But rest assured that I still go outside with my family.

  18. YES, YES, YES! I am normally very private and stay to myself but this year, I am trying to break out of my cocoon, make myself a little uncomfortable, and get SOCIAL! So far, it has been amazing. It has allowed me to go on new adventures, meet new people, and expand my blog. BE MORE SOCIAL! YES!

  19. I really enjoy social networks. I know that I use them for business purposes primarily, but it has also brought me closer to friends a family that I don’t get to see that often. We still can chit-chat online anytime. I do spend a lot of time away from work messaging friends and family online. It’s what I like to do.

  20. I find that I am enjoying my own company a little too much. I don’t do well for long with too many people around these days

  21. I like to be more social but sometimes, it is really awkward if you are not comfortable.

  22. It’s extremely hard to make friends. You can’t trust people nowadays. It’s a shame!

  23. I definitely have a smaller social network offline than on. lol I much prefer to grow my online presence and relationships as somehow they don’t seem to leave me so exhausted, deflated, and overrun! lol

  24. I think it can be hard to stand by this rule, but it is very important to get social with people we meet online or offline. Socializing is so important & we could always connect with some best of the people so easily.

  25. I know how a social network can save you – on so many ways. In 1998 I started to lose my eyesight, I could no longer drive a car, I had to give up clinical nursing, my whole life changed and I was pretty depressed about it all. That;s when I started going online and created a whole new way of “working” helping expectant women around the world prepare for childbirth. My life changed. I reinvented myself and moving forward ever since. There is always another way if you’re willing to look for it… congratulations Dr. Banks! WHAT AN ACCOMPLISHMENT!

  26. Congrats on the degree! I do most of my socializing online. I’ve been a hermit for several years, but am trying now to break out of that and actually get outside and talk to people more often.

  27. With the internet, being Social has gotten so much fun. The fact that you can make friends with people all over the world is just awesome.

    I do agree we need to socialize more and I love the quotes that you shared. Thanks for this awesome post. Take Care

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