Respect Your Limits – Ask for Help When You Need It!

I’ve been looking back through older posts and finding some I think are worth re-publishing, especially if they can benefit someone who may not have read them before. This is one of those, because it is a good reminder for me as much as anyone else who can relate to it!

Respect your limits – you can’t do it all! Ask for help when you need it! There’s nothing wrong with being honest about what you CAN and can NOT handle on your own. This applies to a range of things, from trying to physically move something heavy…to trying to manage an emotionally or mentally “heavy” or difficult situation on your own. Certain times and events can cause stressful situations and put you on emotional rollercoasters. Reach out and ask for help if you can’t manage a situation on your own!

Those who don’t understand or who criticize you for reaching out, or who make excuses for NOT helping you, are those best left out of your life. And God help them whenever THEY get to that point of needing help, and nobody is there for them! On the other hand, cherish those who DO help, and who support and encourage you along the way… those who weep with you when you weep, and those who rejoice with you when you rejoice. These are valuable relationships to maintain and strengthen over the years.

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Onto today’s inspiration and admonition…

 

I’ve learned from experience that it is wise to set proper limits and margins. It is a sign of strength, not weakness.

 

Asking for help is a good thing to do also. God has placed certain people in each of our lives to help us. If we do not receive their help, we become frustrated and overworked, and they feel unfulfilled because they are not using their gifts. You cannot be all things to all people all the time. You have legitimate needs.

 

It is not wrong to need help and ask for it. However, it is wrong to need help and be too proud to ask for it.

 

Many people either complain all the time about what they are expected to do, or they end up falling apart emotionally and physically because they won’t let anyone help them do anything. They don’t think anyone is as qualified for the job as they are.

 

It is easy to think you are more important than you actually are. Learn to delegate. Let as many people help you as possible. If you do, you will last a lot longer and enjoy yourself a lot more.”

 

–Joyce Meyer in “New Day New You”

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My Reflections

 

I can relate to this one all too well; it seems like frustration, overworking, and overcommitting myself and my time are my main strategies in life, yet they tend to be self-destructive.

 

And I can confess that I often neglect to ask for help when I really could use it. Many times those who encourage others also need encouragement themselves.

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So What Are YOUR Thoughts?

 

Do you push yourself to the limit and beyond?

 

Are you comfortable asking for help when you need it?

 

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This Post Has 6 Comments

  1. I agree! I write about this frequently when it comes to my hearing loss. The more open I am in asking for assistance, the better the communications always are. Thanks for this important reminder.
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  2. Yes I push myself to the limits and beyond, mostly because I don’t know when I’m tired. My friends tell me to stop that’s where they are my champions.
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  3. I’m glad you decided to republish this post. We never outgrow our need for limits. If we know what our borders, or limits. Then are we can decide whether to push against them, or accept help to accomplish our goal. Thanks for sharing.
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  4. I do tend to push myself to the limits and beyond. I wear myself out. Eventually, though, I figure out that I am not Super Alice so I do ask for help and I’m OK with it. It’s too bad that I have to wear myself out before I’m aware that it is time to ask for help.

  5. Oh, I should be able to do all of this on my own… bahaha. We do tend to fool ourselves and then go too far and get too tired and too stressed when we could have asked for help sooner.

    I wonder if it has to do with how we’re raised (I’m 62). My mother was fiercely independent and wouldn’t ask for help if her life depended on it. That may well be what I tried to mirror.

    Life is so much easier and better when we’re able to ask and have people to turn to. Good friends and good people are there for each other.

    Great post. Love it.
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  6. I completely agree! I especially like the fact that there has been so much more attention and emphasis on mental health in our country and abroad. We need to keep working to take the stigma out of mental illness. As this process has slowly unfolded, it has become easier (less taboo) for folks to ask for help when needed! Personally, I will never refuse a request for help from someone in need! That is exactly how Christ lived his life and how we have also been instructed to live ours.
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