Remembering My Mom 5 Years After Her Passing – July 7 Reflection

This is a day of reflection for me, because my Mom passed away five years ago after a brief battle with lung cancer, and other cancerous cells throughout her body, as a result of not overcoming breast cancer two years earlier (October 2009).

Final Memories of Mom
                                   Final Memories of Mom

 

Mom attended my youngest daughter’s wedding on June 4, 2011, and met her first great-grandchild for the first time (my oldest niece’s and hubby’s child – they are linguists in Indonesia and were in the USA for the wedding and to visit family and friends).

 

Then, on July 1st, Mom learned she had advanced, aggressive lung cancer.  She wanted to enter hospice care at home. She was surrounded by family and close friends during her final days. We all took turns spending time with her and sitting by her bedside overnight. She passed away peacefully just before 4:30am on July 7, with one of my nephews by her bedside.

 

While we grieved her departure, we were thankful Mom’s pain and suffering ended as she left her cancer-wracked body behind and entered the presence of her Lord…and was reunited with my Dad (her Ben) who passed away in 2002. We could just envision him waiting for her with open arms!

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This has been an especially difficult three weeks, between losing my brother-in-law, spending my 14th Father’s Day without my Dad, nearly losing another family member this past weekend (but for the grace of God and guardian angels), and now this fifth anniversary of my Mom’s passing. Grief can be heavy sometimes… but looking at this quote, I feel blessed to have had these people in my life to love.

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So what are YOUR thoughts?

Have you experienced grief in your life recently or in the distant past?

Have you found it debilitating or did you transition easily to a new “normal” in your life?

This Post Has 19 Comments

  1. It’s been tough especially with all these events in your life, I am moved by your post. I hope you and the rest of the family will eventually feel better, and with love and support, you will make it through.

  2. Your post hits home as my mom passed away three years ago this past June and I feel guilty for not being there sooner. Although I was there when she took her last breath remembering her in the condition I did pains me.

    I am sorry for the loss of your loved ones and hopefully in time it gets easier.

  3. Your mother seemed like a beautiful and lovable woman. You’re a strong person! Sending my thoughts and prayers to your and your family, hopefully you can get through this

  4. I’m so sorry for your lost! When we lost someone special is always hard, but we have to keep strong no matter what.

  5. Loss is not a one time event – it has threads that extend through time. I have been writing about this in the blogging challenge as my mother passed away last Oct. There are really no words that make any difference in how we feel. Bringing my thoughts to the good memories, listing the things I am thankful for, these things help me. Blessings on your journey.

  6. I volunteer as a counsellor with CRUISE bereavement and one of the things we tell people is that grief never really goes away as we expect it to, but life expands to take grief in to account allowing us to come to terms with it, thoughts are with you Karen, stay strong

  7. Awe, I am so sorry for your loss. It does seem that grief comes in seasons and it seems to all attack us at once. I love the quote about grief. We truly never stop thinking about the person, but it does change and become more manageable <3 (((hugs)))

  8. Grief will come to all of us sooner or later. I know the depths of grief can seem unending, but it is a passage, you will be different afterwards. I lost both my brother and father, my mother is still here. One day maybe she won’t be, and then I will look at your words again.

  9. There was one year where we lost my dad, my father-in-law and my mother-in-law all in a span of 9 months. It took a looooong time to come out of the darkness from that.

  10. I suppose one never gets over the loss of a loved one, so I completely empathise and am sorry for your most recent loss. Wishing you and your family lots of love.

  11. So many losses. 🙁 It’s wonderful she got to enter Hospice, and pass at home. They do a wonderful job in a very tough situation.

  12. Ughhhhhh Your post made me think of my brother! He passed away a few years ago :-/

  13. Indeed grief can be heavy sometimes.
    I’ve lost two close members in the past year and I think it’s helped me to trust God deeper. Still learning.

    *HUGS and prayers for you.

  14. I’m sorry to hear about your mom. It’s never easy losing a loved one, even when it’s years later. I’ve lost a lot of loved ones and I still think about them all the time.

  15. Oh hun : ( I am sorry that this is such a hard time of year for you but it amazes me that you try and keep so postive, its a good attitude to have hun.

  16. Sadly my life has been filled with tragic and deeply profound loss, it’s a wonder to me that I still go on and has taken many many years for me to even live any kind of “normal” life with them in my life. it still pains me to think of those last moments they lead.

    But I do know that they would want me to live on and honor their memory so that is what I am doing.
    Thank you for sharing your story, it helped me not feel alone today.

  17. I hope you always keep her memory alive and well in your heart <3 The pain never goes away, and neither does her love.

  18. My all your love one rest in peace. Not sure why we grief but I believe it makes us a stronger.
    Coffee is on

  19. Grief for our loved ones never totally goes away, even when we strongly they have passed to a different and better place. Sometimes, we think we have adjusted to a new normal, and then the grief strikes in a different way. That’s part of the human condition. It’s been 50 years, and I still sometimes grieve for my mother.

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