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Reflecting on Memories of a Life Well Lived – July 12 Inspiration

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Reflecting on memories of a life well lived. This is what we all–family and friends–did 5 years ago today at my Mom’s memorial service at the Evangelical Baptist Church in Laconia, New Hampshire.

I am thankful for the outpouring of love and support my siblings and I, along with our families, received during this difficult time.

Mom's Memorial Service Display in Church
      Mom’s Memorial Service Display in Church

Family members and friends gathered to honor the life of my Mom and share precious memories. It was a beautiful ceremony, as family, friends, and many nurses who had worked with Mom over her 50+ year nursing career, paid tribute to her life and what she had meant to us all. We family members wore purple clothing and accessories–Mom’s favorite color–in her honor. After the main service, we had a reception with refreshments, and lots of displays of pictures and special mementos for everyone to enjoy.

Mom's Memorial Reception
                               Mom’s Memorial Reception

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My Mom had a daily devotional calendar with quotes from Max Lucado’s book, Traveling Light  (which I now have in my home). Ironically, the theme of the devotionals over the days between when Mom passed away and the day of her funeral…were about how Jesus, as our Shepherd, guides us from the valley of the shadow of death into His eternal presence. Here are some of those lines:

“He knows the path.

He has walked this trail many times.

He will lead the flock to the mountains.

‘Yea, though I walk through the valley

of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil;

for You are with me; Your rod

and Your staff, they comfort me (Psalm 23:4).”

“He will lead us to the high country.

When the pasture is bare down here…

our Shepherd will lead us out of the flat lands.

He will take us to the mountain

by way of  the valley.

He will guide us to His house

through the valley of the shadow of death.”

“We all have to face death.

In a life marked by doctor appointments,

dentist appointments, and school appointments,

there is one appointment that none of us will miss:

the appointment with death. 

‘Everyone must die once,

and after that be judged by God’ (Hebrews 9:27).” 

“BUT…I will fear no evil; for YOU are with me.” 

Max Lucado in “Traveling Light” [devotionals for dates July 7 to 11]

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Thank you for visiting and continuing to read and comment, as I made a  change from my usual format to reflect on this special 5th anniversary of remembering my Mom, as she left this life and entered eternal life. Among her final words to us were, “I’m ready to go, to meet my Lord and my Ben.”  We could just imagine him standing next to Jesus, waiting with a welcoming embrace for his beloved Rena, after their 9-year separation since his own home-going.

Collage of my parents and their headstones.
One of the last pictures of my parents together before Dad passed, and their headstones marking their earthly resting place.

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So what are YOUR thoughts?

Do you like the idea of celebrating the life of a loved one, rather than getting too weighed down with sorrow at their passing?

Do you believe you and your loved ones are “ready to go” and that you will some day see loved ones again who have already passed on?

20 Comments

  1. Elizabeth O.

    That’s a beautiful celebration in my opinion. One that you can never really forget. It’s nice to celebrate one’s life and it’s nice to see people come together for it too. I’m glad you are at peace with your mom’s passing. I am sure she is happy with your father in heaven!

    13 . Jul . 2016
  2. tara pittman

    I love that everyone wore purple to celebrate this moment. I so agree that it should be a happy one if they knew Jesus

    13 . Jul . 2016
  3. Melanie Smith

    Wore purple to celebrate was a great idea! Beautiful! You have to think that your parents are together in heaven and they watch you everytime. This post is so inspiring.

    13 . Jul . 2016
  4. Maria

    A life however lived is worthy of celebration. I’m sure your Mom is reading your blog now with a brilliant smile. 🙂

    13 . Jul . 2016
  5. tp keane

    so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful way to honour your mother. You guys did a fab job.

    13 . Jul . 2016
  6. ron leyba

    Sorry for your less. Quite amazing that your friends and relatives all showed up and gave you the support at this kind of moment.

    13 . Jul . 2016
  7. Kathy Kenny Ngo

    It is hard to let go but we must learn to let go. I am sure they will not be happy seeing us in total sadness without them.

    13 . Jul . 2016
  8. Azlin Bloor

    A lovely tribute and remembrance.

    13 . Jul . 2016
  9. Milena

    This is a wonderful tribute to your mom. I’m all for celebrating the life that was lived and yes I do believe we will all be together again.

    13 . Jul . 2016
  10. Enricoh Alfonzo

    it depends on the ceremony and the individual. lie if it was one of my buddies then yeah we would end up having a party because that’s what we all agreed on if we go but if it’s someone truly and dearly close to my heart like my big sister. whew i don’t think i could ever get over that

    13 . Jul . 2016
  11. Rosey

    We are reminiscing here too. Anniversary of a loved one’s death in just a few days.

    13 . Jul . 2016
  12. Michelle Gwynn Jones

    It is so hard when you realize that the anniversary of the death of someone you loved is coming up.

    13 . Jul . 2016
  13. Karlyn Cruz

    I like the idea of going purple. Although it is really sad to lose someone, I love this idea.

    14 . Jul . 2016
  14. anna nuttall

    *HUG* RIP . xx

    14 . Jul . 2016
  15. Nicole Escat

    I am sorry to hear about the lost. Wearing purple is a nice idea. I remember our aunt’s death anniversary.

    14 . Jul . 2016
  16. Lisa Rios

    So sorry for your loss & this is such a wonderful tribute to your mom & the memories are going to be so special always & none can replace it. I am very much sure that some day we will see our loved ones again in the next life.

    14 . Jul . 2016
  17. Kathy

    Sounds like a wonderful ceremony. So sorry about your loss. It can be so hard with the anniversaries of the death of loved ones too.

    14 . Jul . 2016
  18. Marielle Altenor

    It’s never easy saying goodbye to a loved one. Glad you were surrounded by people who love and cared about you when you had to say goodbye to your mom 5 years ago.

    14 . Jul . 2016
  19. Mike Gardner is The Time Doctor

    Loved the idea of wearing purple, I’m a great believer that all lives should be celebrated

    16 . Jul . 2016
  20. Shannon Peterson

    Big hugs. We just lost our grandfather last year and I still have so many sweet memories of him!

    17 . Jul . 2016

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