Loving Others with No Agenda of Our Own

Loving Others with No Agenda of Our Own

Loving Others…

with No Agenda of Our Own


I discovered a collection of OLD posts in my archives to modify and re-publish. And this one is especially relevant for this month when we celebrate Valentine’s Day and its emphasis on love and relationships.

Is it really possible to love others, without us having any personal agendas? I think it’s human nature to want something in return if we love and care for other people–such as their mutual love and care. Just one example: How often do we say, “I love you” to someone without fully expecting to hear the “I love you, too” in return? I think this subject goes back to my post about unconditional love. No conditions, no agenda, simply loving and caring for others “just because” — or perhaps especially because God first loved us!



Here is a collection of thoughts on the topics of having a healthy love and respect for ourselves, loving others, and discerning our motives of the heart, to learn if we have any hidden personal agendas for extending love to another person…

“There are women who feel so bad about themselves that they get involved with men who will hurt them because they believe that is all they deserve. You need to be around safe people, not people who continue to wound you. God will help you learn to recognize those people if you listen to His wisdom.

Love is the healing balm that the world needs, and God offers it freely and continuously. His love is unconditional. He does not love us IF…He simply and for all time loves us. He does not love us because we deserve it; He loves us because he is kind and wants to love us.

Pray: Lord, Your eternal love surrounds me today, and I receive it with a heart full of praise. I am secure in Your love and kindness, given to me unconditionally. Amen.”

–Joyce Meyer in “The Confident Woman Devotional”


“Thank You, Father, that You so loved the world that You gave Your one and only Son, our Lord Jesus Christ….Thank You for the way He rebuked the arrogant and looked with favor on the humble-minded, opening wide the door of His kingdom to those who were destitute and helpless in spirit. I delight in Your tender mercies, O my God, by which the Sunrise on high has come to us!”

–Ruth Myers in “31 Days of Praise”


“If you don’t get whatever it is you want, can you still love God? Will you still serve Him all the days of your life? Or are you just trying to get something form Him? A fine line divides the motives of the heart between selfish and selfless; and we must always make sure we understand which side of the line we are standing on.”

–Joyce Meyer in “Ending Your Day Right”




My Reflections


Sometimes loving ourselves and loving others seems like a difficult task. We tend to be our own worst enemies, and likewise, we tend to more easily see faults than good qualities in others.


Unconditional love is certainly something we all desire, but it’s also difficult to give unconditional love consistently, due to our human nature. Thank God for HIS unconditional love!




So What Are YOUR Thoughts?


Do you struggle to love yourself?


Do you find it’s sometimes difficult to overlook the faults of others and extend the same love to them that we ourselves desire?




6 thoughts on “Loving Others with No Agenda of Our Own

  1. Hi Karen. I was just reading this scripture: “Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? …

    “For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,

    “Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:35, 38–39).

    The only thing that can separate us from the love of Christ is … us.

    Once we accept that we are children of God and that he loves us, we can begin to feel that we are worthy

    Thanks for your thoughts on this subject.
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