In Memory of My Brother-in-Law — GoFundMe Memorial Fund –June 22
It’s still so surreal. Life changed forever last Thursday night (6/16) when my husband Dave’s dad called at 8:18pm (still on the caller ID). Dave answered and I watched the color drain from his face as he exclaimed, “Oh my God…”
He repeated it a few more times, then hung up and threw the phone across his desk. I asked him what was wrong, and he simply said, “Doug is gone…” Then he wept for quite awhile as I held him and tried to comfort him.
Dave’s younger brother Doug committed suicide last week.
The family is reeling in shock and grief. Dave used to be really close to Doug, but they had drifted apart over the last few years. That’s part of why Dave is so upset with himself and he has so many regrets. He has cried more in the past few days than in the 13 years we’ve been together.
Doug struggled with depression for awhile, for a variety of reasons, but there was no indication he was in such a state of despair to push him over the edge.
It’s so awful for everyone in the family, as well as friends, and especially his fiancée. They only recently got engaged, and she is, understandably, devastated.
To help the family cover the unanticipated expenses, and to set up trust funds for Doug’s kids, we are using GoFundMe to raise funds.
This is the text within the GoFundMe Memorial Fund:
“Things that you taught me,
and all that you gave to me,
how can I tell you about what it’s meant to me?
Of all the things that you taught to me,
and all the things that you’re giving to me,
your love means the most to me.
I’m writing this just to let you see.
I found my way out into the night,
you took my hand saying it’s allright,
and pulled me right back into the light,
and helped me thru one hell of a fight.”
–Written by Douglas C. Banks
Sadly, this gentle soul has now lost that fight.
The Banks family and loved ones suffered a tragic loss on June 15, 2016.
Doug was a beloved son, brother of five siblings, father of a son and a daughter, fiancé of a beautiful lady, cousin of many, uncle of several nieces and nephews, friend of numerous acquaintances, and co-worker of several.
He loved his family and friends. He exercised his creative genius in anything he put his hand to. He was a lover of poetry, writing, and music—especially playing his guitar.
Now his presence is sorely missed and his loss has devastated his loved ones.
The suddenness of Doug’s departure has left the family with unanticipated funeral costs and related expenses.
While a family memorial service will be held soon, the family would like to request donations, rather than flowers, in Doug’s memory to help defray costs. Any size donation would be welcome.
Donations over and above expenses would go toward creating a trust fund for Doug’s children.
God bless you all and thank you ahead of time for your kindness and generosity during this difficult time.”
I’m not asking any of you readers to donate unless you feel moved to do so; just asking if you would consider sharing the fundraiser across your own social media accounts.
If you aren’t comfortable doing that, then please just send prayers and kind thoughts to the entire Banks/Livingstone (Mom’s side) family. Thanks and God bless!