Respect your limits – you can’t do it all! Ask for help when you need it! There’s nothing wrong with being honest about what you CAN and can NOT handle on your own. This applies to a range of things, from trying to physically move something heavy…to trying to manage an emotionally or mentally “heavy” or difficult situation on your own. The holiday season is notorious for creating stressful situations and emotional rollercoasters. Reach out and ask for help if you can’t manage a situation on your own!
Those who don’t understand or who criticize you for reaching out, or who make excuses for NOT helping you, are those best left out of your life. On the other hand, cherish those who DO help and who support and encourage you along the way… those who weep with you when you weep, and those who rejoice with you when you rejoice. These are valuable relationships to maintain and strengthen over the years.
Onto today’s inspiration and admonition…
“I’ve learned from experience that it is wise to set proper limits and margins. It is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Asking for help is a good thing to do also. God has placed certain people in each of our lives to help us. If we do not receive their help, we become frustrated and overworked, and they feel unfulfilled because they are not using their gifts. You cannot be all things to all people all the time. You have legitimate needs.
It is not wrong to need help and ask for it. However, it is wrong to need help and be too proud to ask for it. Many people either complain all the time about what they are expected to do, or they end up falling apart emotionally and physically because they won’t let anyone help them do anything. They don’t think anyone is as qualified for the job as they are.
It is easy to think you are more important than you actually are. Learn to delegate. Let as many people help you as possible. If you do, you will last a lot longer and enjoy yourself a lot more.”
–Joyce Meyer in “New Day New You”
I can relate to this one all too well; it seems like frustration, overworking, and overcommitting myself and my time are my main strategies in life, yet they tend to be self-destructive. And I can confess that I often neglect to ask for help when I really could use it. Many times those who encourage others also need encouragement themselves.
So what are YOUR thoughts?
Do you push yourself to the limit and beyond?
Are you comfortable asking for help when you need it?