Complaining vs. Praising – October 28 Attitude of Gratitude

Midweek! I lost an entire day yesterday finishing a project and taking care of some other things demanding my time.  While my goal is to blog daily, or at least weekdays, I’m realizing I need to take a break sometimes and prioritize. I want to make sure blogging is something I do because I *WANT* to, not like other things I *HAVE* to do.


Have you ever noticed complaining makes you feel worse instead of better, and even drains your energy? You end up stuck in the negative situation you complain about, instead of moving forward.

Check out today’s devotional thought on this concept.

“Complaining is a corrupt form of conversation

that causes many people a great deal

of problems in their lives.

It also opens the doors for the enemy.

Words are containers of power.

Complaining, grumbling words carry destructive power.

They destroy the joy of the one doing the complaining

and can also affect other people who have to listen to them.

Murmuring and complaining pollute our lives

and probably sound like cursing to the Lord.

To Him, it is verbal pollution. To pollute is to poison.

Did you ever stop to think that you and I

can poison our future by complaining

about what is going on right now?

When we complain about our current situation,

we remain in it;

when we praise God in the midst of difficulty,

He raises us out of it.

The best way to start  everyday

is with gratitude and thanksgiving.

Praise and thanksgiving are good;

complaining and grumbling are evil.”

–Joyce Meyer in “New Day New You”


My reflections:

I really like the admonition of this one: “Complain and remain OR praise and be raised!” Another expression I’ve heard often is to “Get off the pity pot.” When I’m honest, I know that anything negative really is just not worth hanging onto, especially compared to the changes that happen when I focus on the positive instead.


So what are YOUR thoughts?

Do you struggle with grumbling and complaining, or do you have a strategy to focus on praise and gratitude to help you move forward?

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  1. So right – complaining is draining, and unproductive. I’ve found when I start I always feel worse – angrier, more depressed – afterwards.It’s better to try and replace the negative emotion by taking some kind of positive action that wipes it out.:)
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  2. I was horrified when (some months ago) I discovered the first words out of my mouth many days was a complaint! Now, I try to start the day with some silent praise. We use the expression “pity party” a lot, but it is no party, and no fun. I don’t like to be around people who complain all the time – and I’ve learned from that (I hope).
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  3. I would venture to guess that many people are not even aware of the fact that much of their conversation is based on complaining. We humans get caught in patterns we often do automatically, without much forethought. The key is to learn to be able to objectively step back and listen to yourself. I’ve heard people suggest taping yourself in conversations, to see how positive…or negative, in the words you use. Positivity does make you feel more optimistic, and you will still expend the same amount of energy, so you might as well use it being positive. Thanks for the food for thought, Karen!
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  4. I never knew some of my explanations sounded like complaints. Now I’m more aware of it and watch what comes out of my mouth.

  5. Negativity is VERY draining. Who has time for that?

  6. Sometimes it feels good to let everything out, but most of the time you’re right. Complaining really does no good. You just need to do something about the situation instead.
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  7. I agree that complaining is so unproductive and I think you are right it probably does sound like cursing to the Lord. Defintely makes you think about what your heart looks like from the inside.
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  8. Since people often come to me with their problems, I have to be careful while discerning a genuine complaint and a chance opportunity to engage in a whingerama which drains me out, Karen.

    My best question is to ask the complainer, ‘what do you think we should do?’ and try to find a solution.

    When it comes to my own grievances, I try to find some silver lining in the dark cloud and use it as a hook to get past the object of complaint to peaceful resolution. Guess I take the saying – there are no problems, only solutions – literally. 🙂
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  9. That’s absolutely right! Nothing will happen if you just keep complaining instead of doing something about your problem. That’s what most people do and they aren’t aware that it only drags them further down.

  10. I so agree that complaining does harm to the speaker as well as the one who has to listen. I fall into the latter category. i end up batting the complaints to one side like a badminton player. I like to appreciate and thank God for all I have.

  11. I am surrounding with a lot of chronic complainer and over the years I have learn to ignore and keep moving because they drain my energy. I appreciate this blog post for reminding me I am not alone.
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  12. I dealt with this a lot in my last job. It got to be so unhappy there because everyone was constantly being negative. It really does change the way you can work and how happy you are able to feel there. I spent a good deal of time at my office and it’s just miserable to be around people who are constantly negative. I think being happy is a very important CHOICE we need to make everyday. It makes life so much more enjoyable!
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  13. I agree the complaining can be truly draining. Focusing your energy and words on what is not working rather than focusing on what can be changed and worked out can zap momentum quick.
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  14. I think someone else had a complaint, Dealing with that was too annoying to hear them especially not may be comfort to you, Just move away and keep moving on!

  15. I must admit that I fall into complaining sometimes. I quickly, though, pull myself out of that mode as it only attracts more reason to complain.
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  16. I’ve noticed as a mother that the more I praise and encourage my son, the better his temperament and attitude are!
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  17. I think we need to differentiate between whining and complaining. I agree we need to whine less and get past the negativity it causes but complaining in proper circumstances, such as taking faulty goods back to a store can be empowering.

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