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  1. I think we are 100% responsible for ourselves. So a relationship would have to be 50/50. You can not give give give and have the other always take. that is not balance nor is it fair

  2. Elizabeth O

    I think the 100%/0 principle works when there is reciprocity. Some people are takers and would abuse such a principle.

  3. Something that helped me immensely in regards to taking responsibility for my actions is realizing that I couldn’t take responsibility for my actions until I FIRST took responsibility for my emotions. 100%

    And when I do that, I experience what you describe: my relationships reflect what’s happening inside of me. Powerful stuff!

  4. I think it depends on both people and what kind of relationship you have. Everyone is different. The key is both parties should be happy and take the others feelings into consideration.

  5. I like it. I think many of us (myself included) could spend less time thinking about our wants, needs and desires and spend a little more time focusing on the needs of others.

  6. This is an interesting post. I always feel like I have to take 100% of the responsibility for everything. With that said I also find I spend more time focusing on the needs of others and neglecting my needs. I tend to feel that others problems are somehow my fault if that makes any sense. Thanks for sharing this post. It is one I shall reflect on.

  7. Nicole Escat

    I think numbers are not important in a relationship but how the both of you accept each other’s differences and work things together.

  8. Nikki Jenner

    Yes, relationship should be 50/50. Both must give and take and responsibility must also equal as well as the love for each other.

  9. Courtney Gillard

    I love this article, I learn many lessons from it. In a relationship, both should give their % according to what they can and the other will fill up the remaining %.

  10. I think we always need to give 100% because sometimes the other person can’t and this way it is always covered. If you each look at it as 50/50 and someone is having an off day or period then the 100% is not met. This is very important in marriage. When everyone is striving to give it their all (100%) then you are covered.

  11. I have always given my 100% in any relationship i had and it actually works well for me. it makes me a lot happier and content especially now that i am married šŸ™‚

  12. I admit, there are a lot of times when I was wishing that a certain person was different. I’ve just come to realize that it can’t be that way, I should accept them for what they are, even if my wishes were for the best.

  13. Relationship should be 50/50 especially sharing with responsibility. Two people should help each other to achieve goals and dreams about their life. You cannot survive if one is handling. It needs a balance to work.

  14. Robin Ruehrwein

    You should be able to give anyone that you really care about 100%! You should also give that much to yourself, too.

  15. I don’t think I could continue a 100/0 relationship for long. I had a friend like that and it became absolutely exhausting for me. I just had to walk away.

  16. I don’t agree with people thinking of relationships as “50-50.” It’s impossible to make everything equal in that way, and I think it’s not the best way to look at it, since you will think of only needing to go halfway. I’m definitely someone who thinks that everyone should give 100%! 50% is never enough.

  17. Melissa Bernardo

    a good relationship will not work unless both people work together. Great post. Thanks for sharing!

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